I'm guilty of 1, 2, 3, and 5
1. Convincing Your Friends and Family to Read Your Work.
I tried to put it nicely but there are no two ways about it. You need to not make it awkward between you and the people you love by expecting them to buy and applaud your work. It's causing you undue stress. Please Stop. There are 8 billion people in this world. Yes, friends are great (my friends who love romance love Soul Ties) and supportive but please find your niche and market directly to the people you wrote your book for.
2. Being Afraid to Market Your Own Work
Fear is a liar. You did a big thing by putting your thoughts on paper. I'm not saying everyone is gonna wanna read it, but at least share your work so we can choose for ourselves. I'll even give you a leg up.
* If you post your book link in the comment section. I'll share it for you. If it interests me I'll take it a step further and buy it.
3. Shying Away From Networking
Introvert or extrovert, it took some networking to get you into this world and while you're here if you are serious, it's gonna take some networking to get your work to where you want it to be. PLUS the internet makes it soooooo easy. Literally, you can send a message to anyone!! (unless you've been blocked)
4. Asking the Wrong People for Help
Some things just don't go together. I am an advocate for strategic thinking (the big brother to common sense). Think about what you've written, if it's historical fiction, please don't go ask a Sci-Fi aficionado to review your work. Their feedback might be valuable but it might just lead you down a slippery slope that destroys your work.
5. Writing an Essay When All You Need is a Paragraph to Introduce Your Work.
You don't gotta be mad aggressive when you write that blurb. Yes, it's important, so don't start it by saying, "I'm not really great at writing blurbs but...." Come ON!! If you are not great at it, pick the best blurb you've read and model yours after it. Practice, make perfect and allll of that.
That's it. I've helped you. Share your thoughts in the comments below. I'd love to know what you've learned on your writing journey.